![]() You fantasize about things magically being different, and this is the only thing keeping you going.Ģ0. ![]() You hate how things are right now, you feel stuck and trapped and miserable. When the only reason you’re still in the relationship is you hope it will magically change. You just feel like a shell of a person.ġ9. You may feel constantly nauseous, exhausted, depleted, and have no energy. Our emotions manifest in physical ways, especially when we try to shove them away. When there is a perpetual knot in your stomach. You feel ashamed of your relationship when you see a healthy relationship.ġ8. This isn’t normal jealousy, like being jealous of a fabulous vacation another couple took, you’re jealous of innocuous things like the fact that they seem to genuinely like each other and that they are considerate of one another. When you resent your partner, you can’t truly love him, you can’t even respect him.ġ7. It trickles in slowly at first, but soon enough it’s gushing in and you’re drowning in it. When your resentment tank is full, and love tank is empty. Resentment is what poisons a relationship and ultimately causes it to unravel. The only chance a relationship has to succeed is if both people are fully invested.ġ4. If he stopped trying, if he doesn’t put any effort in anymore, then it’s a big sign you need to step away as well. You don’t meet each other’s needs and trying to solve issues feels like playing tennis with a brick wall.ġ3. You never seem to be making progress, you have the same fights over and over, the same issues lay dormant just waiting to be provoked and then they come flooding back in like an angry torrent. When you take half a step forward and 10 steps back. If you get defensive when someone questions you about his actions, or feel the need to justify it, it’s probably because you know it was wrong, you just don’t want to admit it, not to yourself and not to others.ġ2. You know what they say about rationalizing … you’re telling rational lies, and you might truly believe them. You can rationalize away even the worst behavior, you are a masterful artist when it comes to painting beautiful brushstrokes over the darkest clouds. Who wants all the drama that comes with being single and dating? And if you’re at a certain point in your life where everyone you know is settled down, when you can feel the pressure to settle down pressing upon your shoulder, then it makes a tough situation basically impossible.ġ1. It seems easier to just stay in your relationship even though you feel miserable. ![]() It’s hard to put yourself back out there and open yourself up to possible rejection and heartbreak. And then after more swipes and more dates, you actually start dating someone you like who likes you back! But you don’t really know him so well yet, and he doesn’t know you, and your fears get activated and you just wish you were in a more established place. Then you find someone who thinks you’re totally great, but you don’t feel the same. And then you find someone who seems great, but he doesn’t feel the same. Then you get back out there and date and date and date and keep hoping something eventually sticks. You swipe and swipe … you match with a bunch of guys but don’t hear from most of them … then you actually set up a date, and he’s a total dud.
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